Comments on: Will work for advise

By: Hey, No fair! that wasn’t 6 months! at Triple Venti

Hey, No fair! that wasn’t 6 months! at Triple Venti — Sat, 06 Oct 2007 23:12:59 +0000

[...] the end of July we found out that TheWife’s Step father was given six months to live. He requested a family party, to get one more chance to see everybody which we had in August. [...]

By: Darren

Darren — Thu, 26 Jul 2007 03:08:16 +0000

That is a tough situation. Busy Mom had some good advice though. Has anyone asked your wife’s step father what he wants to do about the get-together? Just being honest with him about the situation and everyone’s feeling is probably the best way to go.

By: Erin-Go-Braghless

Erin-Go-Braghless — Wed, 25 Jul 2007 13:26:36 +0000

Hope you are doing well, now that you’ve got some good advice
BTW, I tagged you!

By: Busy Mom

Busy Mom — Tue, 24 Jul 2007 16:43:35 +0000

Sorry to hear the news. There’s no good way to feel comfortable with it, you just have to jump in and talk about it if it seems like the right thing to do.

You know, somebody has to be the outlier of the lung cancer stats. Why not him? No one really knows.

It’s a serious “one day at at a time” thing. He’s the same person he was before you found out the news, you just treat him that way.

When you first find out, the natural reaction is to have them dead, eulogized and buried in your head. It’s OK. Eventually, you get through that, and, realize they’re still around for however long they’re supposed to be around.

I’m am gradually learning that whatever happens, happens. Whether or not I spend time worrying about it.

By: Erin-Go-Braghless

Erin-Go-Braghless — Tue, 24 Jul 2007 13:33:51 +0000

I have no idea, but my DH’s uncle passed yesterday (unexpectedly, but he was never the picture of health), leaving his nearly 80 year old parents, his grown sons, grandchildren, second wife and 10 year old daughter behind. Family members were all supposed to gather at the farm in Kansas on Saturday to celebrate Grandparents’ 60th wedding anniversary. Now it’s clear that it will be a funeral instead.
I really don’t know if it’s easier when you at least have some notice that death is imminent. It hurts just as bad as losing someone unexpectedly…